Technology is King

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

In this every changing world of technology, it’s hard to know which product is the best. iPhone or Android? iPad or Galaxy tablet? Whatever your choice may be, tablets give a much bigger viewing area to view websites or apps that you may download, that phones would not.

Say for instance you’re out driving around and doing some shopping for your wedding day: decorations, wedding day outfits, etc. You can download a barcode app that allows you to scan an item and quickly look up more information about it, and even perhaps find a better deal for that same product online.

But how about planning a wedding and having every detail about your budget to vendors at your fingertips? Any contract you sign can be easily scanned to PDF and stored on a custom folder on your tablet so you can bring it up at any time to review deliverables of the vendor, or their contact info if you need to get a hold of them.

In addition, there are apps that allow help you to plan your wedding directly from your phone or tablet. The best of these apps appears to be from WeddingWire, with nearly a four out of five star rating. Both the Android and iPhone/Pad apps have a budget tracker (to track payments made to vendors and to ensure you stay within your budgetary constraints), and a checklist that you can customize to your specific wedding day needs. If you need help finding a vendor, you can even search local vendors in your area as well.

The one thing I like about the Samsung Galaxy tablet, sold at Verizon Wireless, is you can get month to month based service on the 3G network for as little as $20 per month for 1GB of downloads/uploads. That’s plenty, because if you’re in any area that has Wi-Fi connectivity, you can most likely use that network for free. iPads have similar capabilities on the Verizon and AT&T networks as well.

If you’re a technical junkie like me, you’ll love utilizing these new easy to use and easy to carry tablets. It’s helped us a lot more in our day to day wedding planning business, and I know they will help you stay on track to your big day as well.

Website Shopping: What’s the Price?

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

Most of the time, when I want to learn about one product or another, I search the website of the company for which it was created by.

I already have an idea into what the products purpose is, so before I read into what it can completely do for me, I search for the price. Sometimes, I have to search a lot harder than I really want to, thus I lose interest in the product all together. Game over.

For example, after we got engaged, Valerie and I started to put together our ideas as to what we wanted are wedding to look like.

The most important thing for us, outside of the venue in San Diego, was the photographer. So our initial web search took us to different photographers throughout the San Diego area. If I was on a photographer’s website, or any wedding vendor website for that matter, and it didn’t have a price sheet, I’d move on to the next one.

It’s no different than shopping for a car. The main company website may have starting prices of the car, but when you really want to find out what the car will cost you, you head to the dealer website. If you’re like me, you’d rather not call to find out, because they will want you to come down and see the car, and then they’ll discuss the price.

It’s important to know what kind of price you might be looking at paying before really finding out if they are worth having at your wedding. At least when you meet with the vendor, both you and the vendor will know you are somewhat serious about having them as a part of your wedding.

But the most common of all the non-priced wedding vendors happens to be the business we are in, wedding planning.

For the reasons expressed above, that is why we at Blueprint Affairs publish our package pricing on our website, along with what it includes. And best yet, you still get a free one hour consultation so that we can see if we are a fit for your wedding.

For additional information or to schedule a free one hour consultation, visit the Blueprint Affairs website or email info@blueprintaffairs.com today.

The Rehearsal Dinner

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

One of the traditional responsibilities for the groom is the rehearsal dinner. The rehearsal dinner is that meal that takes place after the bridal party has walked through their ceremony procession, which usually takes place the day before the wedding, or two days prior.

Rehearsal dinners can either be just as elaborate as the wedding day, or much more subtle. It all depends on the type of budget you have for this occasion, but it is usually safe to plan for 25 to 35 people depending on the size of your bridal party and family members.

It’s a good rule of thumb to allow the bridal party to bring a guest of their own. And, if you have close family flying in from out of town, like your grandparents, it’s a great idea to include them as well in this occasion.

So what about the venue?

This could be as simple as a great brewery restaurant like Rock Bottom or BJ’s Brewhouse, a nice Southwestern or Mexican restaurant like Jalapeno Inferno, or a more elaborate setting like Maggiano’s Little Italy or Mastro's Oceans Club.

Let’s look at a few options.

Maggiano’s is a great place to do a family style rehearsal dinner. From a wide selection of entrees on the menu, you get to choose two to three appetizers, two to three salads, two to three entrees, two to three pasta dishes, and two to three deserts. There is plenty of food for all to enjoy and with a price range of $29 to $40 per person, it is definitely worth every penny. Plus, if you liked something more than others, you can order as much as your heart desires and the price still remains the same.

Another great place located in North Scottsdale is Jalapeno Inferno. With great margarita tastes like the Creamy Coconut or the Prickly Pear, and flavorful dishes, like The Chimichanga that Ate Nogales, you’re sure to find something for everyone to enjoy. And being in Arizona, this is a great way to treat those out of town family or bridal party members who don’t get to taste the true authentic flavors of the Southwest.

With so many great restaurants to choose from in the Valley of the Sun, you’re sure to find any restaurant to meet your rehearsal dinner needs.

A Stress Free Wedding Day

Have you thought about your wedding day in full detail? If not, you may want to take a couple minutes to visualize that day.

Close your eyes, and picture yourselves getting ready for the ceremony. All of a sudden, the photographer comes up to you and asks you if you’re ready yet for your pictures. Then, right behind the photographer is the DJ wondering if they have the correct song you’ve picked for the brides walk down the aisle.

The groom’s buddy then tugs on his shoulder and says the caterer wants to know if the ceremony is going to get started on time, and if not, how far should the dinner be pushed back?

The men finally get ready to take pictures, but then realize they don’t have the boutonnière pinned to their jackets yet. And it’s then he realizes he has yet to see the florist, and then scrambles to find her.

So now ask yourself, how is your wedding day going? Is this how you envisioned your wedding day? Do you have a lot more stress than you imagined? Do you really want to be dealing with all these minor details and questions right now?

The Money You’ve Spent

In the Phoenix metropolitan area, on average, a couple is likely to spend $2,000+ on a quality photographer, $1,000+ or on a DJ or musician, $8,000+ on the venue and catering, and $1,500+ on flowers. With all that invested, do you want to a) coordinate the wedding yourself and not really get to enjoy your time with your new bride and deal with the above scenario, or b) hire a day-of-wedding coordinator to handle all the details so that you can enjoy your investment on the one day that you tie the knot with your lovely bride.

A Small Investment to Enjoy Your Day

Based on the above averages, you’ve just spent over $12,000 for the basic items you needed for your wedding day. Consider investing a little bit more so you can relax and have fun on your wedding day.

Now, picture yourself with a day-of-wedding coordinator, not to be confused with a site coordinator. A site coordinator doesn’t do anything to help with the flow of your day. They are there to simply help you find your room to get ready in and/or to make sure their own staff is in place for your ceremony and reception. But, a day-of-wedding coordinator takes all those visualized references above, and takes them off your plate.

With packages starting at $1,550, it’s worth it to you and your bride to consider hiring a day-of-wedding coordinator.

You shouldn’t be bothered with a thousand questions on your wedding day. With the Blueprint Affairs difference, we take on your wedding day coordination needs at least 30 days prior to your wedding and leave no rock unturned. Come your wedding day, you’ll be relaxed and stress free.

Contact Blueprint Affairs today at info@blueprintaffairs.com or 623-215-8657 to schedule your FREE initial consultation and see how we can serve every one of your needs come your wedding day.

See related blog: Destination Love: The Bride’s View

Until next time, happy wedding planning!

The Groom’s Duties

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

Congratulations man…you’re engaged! Now ask yourself: what's next?

Today, the modern groom doesn’t just sit back and say to his bride to be “Yes, whatever you want” when it comes to the wedding. You do have some responsibilities that fall on you, more than anyone else, including:

• Choose your best man and groomsmen
• Discuss the style of your wedding with your bride to be and make sure you both know the attire you want to have. Do you want the wedding to have a laid-back feel, or do you want it to be formal?
• Transportation – make sure you assist in arranging this for the bride to get to the ceremony, along with everyone else in your wedding party. If your reception is a drive away from the ceremony location, you’ll need transportation to get your entire wedding party there
• Arrange for accommodations, if needed, for out-of-town guests (ex. Room blocks at a specific hotel)
• Gifts – purchase for both your bride to be and for your groomsmen
• Obtain the marriage license – without it, your wedding is not official
• Plan the rehearsal dinner and prepare to make a toast at the rehearsal dinner thanking everyone for coming out to your wedding

Besides the duties specific to the groom, here are ways you can get involved in the planning process of the wedding with your bride to be:

• Determine your wedding budget and make a plan to stick within the budget. What are the most important things in your wedding to consider, i.e. planner, photographer, flowers, DJ, etc.
• Select a date, time and location for your ceremony and reception
• Create your guest list and make sure to not go over the number of guests you plan to have
• Book an officiant or minister for your wedding
• Work with your planner to hire the vendors for your wedding day

One of the things a groom should work on, and not wait to the last minute to do, is plan the honeymoon. Discuss where it is you both want to share your first week or two as a married couple. And make sure to follow our tips to planning your honeymoon. By booking at least six months out, you’re likely to save a lot more money than booking a month or two out.

Until next time, this is the BLUEman, signing off.

Destination Love || Engagement Sessions

Fromage! This also means “cheese” in French. My best friend travels the world and brought back that fun translation she said each picture taken in France. Just like any great vacation needs great pictures to detail the journey, your wedding will begin a journey for many years to come. Every photographer provides the option for any budget to include an engagement session to capture those special moments before you become husband and wife. Take advantage of this time to find a place that tells a story about you as a couple, says Photographer, Marcia Mauskopf of Marcia – The Art of Photography. Marcia recommends taking a trip out to Congress Street in Tucson for those couples of artistic nature or the graffiti walls downtown for a modern spin on photography.

Dress Essentials

Not sure what to wear? Talk to your photographer about your perfect location to document your engaged life before married life. Whites and stonewashed denim fit the Tempe Town Lake backdrop whereas; black would best suit your graffiti walls of downtown. Bring a few different shirts or outfits to change. Don’t worry, you can change on location and ideally create a photo mix by changing up the scenery.

New Best Friend

Your photographer will soon know every favorite look or as some say “sides” that you will want on display for all to see. Make friends with your photographer by getting started ASAP on your engagement session. This will help you feel comfortable being the object of the lens for hours on your wedding day. Marcia says that trust is the single most important component to successful wedding photography. I have to agree that if you feel comfortable each shot will look relaxed and more natural. Pick a picture perfect setting closer to sunset for the most dramatic look with unforgettable shots. Have fun and play to the camera!

How to use Engagement Photos

Talk to your photographer about their photo packages. You will want print versions of your pictures now or later. Add coffee table photo books to your package. Other items to consider include photo charm bracelets, purses, make-up bags, and matted prints suited for signatures during your reception. You may also want to create a picture table for your reception area that highlights a few best photos of you along with other framed pictures of your parents. This makes a great montage table for all your guests to see.

Sandals Resorts...An Easy Honeymoon

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

Continuing with the theme of honeymoons, here is one that is sure to alleviate a lot of stress in planning that perfect honeymoon, and allow you to enjoy your first week as a married couple.

I’m talking about Sandals All-inclusive Honeymoons.

You who might think $$$$ when the all-inclusive word is spoken…think again. That $$$$ sign can quickly become $$ for the same vacation many others select.

Take for example some current specials going on right now, including 65% off your weekly room rate.

For a Honeymoon Concierge Grand Luxe Beachfront Walkout Room at the Sandals Regency in St. Lucia, you could get a week stay for $4,760.00, normally priced at $11,900.00.

On top of that, based on that room type, they will throw in a $250 Red Lane Spa Credit so you can indulge in a couples massage.

So whether you select Jamaica, St. Lucia, Antigua, or the Bahamas as your honeymoon destination, you will enjoy every minute of it with the Sandals All-inclusive Honeymoon.

Here is something else you should know. Blueprint Affairs can help you plan your Sandals Honeymoon. Simply email info@blueprintaffairs.com and we can start to help you plan that perfect honeymoon.

MAPPING Out Your Wedding

BLUEman: The Male Perspective

If you’re having a destination wedding, one of the first things to do is to check around the area. But with budgets a little tight these days, the alternative to flying out a couple weekends throughout the planning process is to use technology that is readily available.

I’m talking about Google Maps.

Simple set your browser to http://www.googlemaps.com/ and begin your visit to the far off destination in no time.

Some helpful tips about Google mapping:

1. In the upper left hand corner is the search feature. If you don’t know the exact address of the venue you selected, or if you’re just beginning your search, you can simply enter the city and state (ex: San Francisco, CA) and press Search Maps.
2. If you want to see the landscape around the area or what the buildings look like, make sure to select the Satellite option in the upper right hand corner of the map image.
3. Create a Google account. This will allow you to use the “My Map” feature where you can save maps related to your wedding location, and even a separate map for your honeymoon and the sites you may wish to see.

Once you do the basics as described above, you can click on the little red bulb with an “A” related to any of your searches to then search nearby hotels, restaurants, etc. You name it, Google map will find it.

One of the features I like about Google Maps is the street view. Zoom in as far as you can next to a restaurant or hotel you may have found, and now you are on the street looking at what everything looks like around it. This is the best way to get familiar with the area before even getting there.

One of the best things to do, is after you plotted your rehearsal dinner location, surrounding hotels, nearest airport, etc, you can share this with your wedding guests using the Send feature.

So, whether you chose to have that destination wedding or not, Google Maps is a great way to get familiar with the area before even stepping foot on the ground, or to best prepare an out of town guest for their trip to your wedding destination.

See you back here next week for the next edition of the BLUEman.

The Wedding Party

Are you ready for a party made just for your wedding? And we’re not talking about the usual wedding and reception. We’re talking about a pre-wedding party, and no, not a bridal shower, bachelor or bachelorette party either. This is called a Social.

In Canada, a social is an event held to help raise financial capital for your big wedding day. And in these economic times, it could be just the ticket to a debt free wedding.

Imagine walking away with $7,000 or more to cover your upcoming wedding.

Here is how it works. Find a reception hall or cheap venue to hold your Social. Find a DJ to spin the music and layout a dance floor. Get a liquor license, if you are required to, and provide alcohol for this one night event. Make sure your coordinate with the selected venue. They may provide this liquor license for you, and you want to make sure you know your limits. But if you’re making money off of the bar, you’ll need some sort of license.

This is not a party reserved for just the bridal party and guests…this is a party that you want to bring as many people as you can to, whether you know them or not. But make sure you limit the number of tickets to the space you have. If your hall will hold 200 people comfortable, don’t sell 250 tickets.

The key to making money is to limit your expenses. Don’t go to a venue that is too pricey, and don’t spend more than you need to on a great DJ, otherwise, your ticket sales will do nothing more than pay for the cost of those expenses and you won’t walk away with any profits, which is the goal of this Social. And if you need to, don’t forget to pay for some security so when the money comes in, it’s protected.

One of the ways to draw people into the party is to raffle off prizes throughout the night. Advertise a big giveaway when selling tickets to get their attention. Even consider holding a silent auction. Keep people entertained as much as possible. And at midnight, throw out some free appetizers and keep the party going until closing time.

The goal is to have people spend money, so when it’s time for your wedding, you’re spending less.

Venue Me || How to Choose Your Venue

Time is ticking on finding the perfect wedding venue. No one said this would be an easy task. On another thought, you really may have no clue what to do when it comes to scouting out a venue and figuring out the next steps. I’m here to tell you that this is your first step after the engagement because your entire wedding hinges on the location of your ceremony and reception (of course, this is easier when both at same location). The venue sets the tone and allows you to select colors, styles, and food choices that fit your preferences.


Close To Home

Choosing a venue close to home saves time and money. This allows you to closely monitor all the special details and take tours of the venue open houses. This is a great way to select local vendors and have a green, eco-friendly wedding. Arizona also provides gorgeous sunsets and many fine venues that range from reception only sites to full-service resorts. Some venues require your vendor choices be selected from a preapproved list. This may help you find ease at “shopping” at once but may limit your favorite photographer that you can’t live without.

Stateside Selections

In all its beautiful colors and landscape, Arizona does miss the unmistakable beachside views that you yearn to see in your pictures. You may find wish to for a beach wedding soaking up the rays on the beach. Take a weekend trip six months or more prior to wedding to meet with potential vendors. Contact area venues for their vendor recommendations as this will be a current referral (vendor lists are seldom updated online).

Tropical or International Calling Card

The economy is not the only factor driving this exciting romance getaway. Your friends and family play a large part in attendance on your day. Determine if your friends and family will need a passport and/or visa for your destination wedding. I strongly recommend using a travel planner for booking hotel and flights. The Swine Flu was a big roadblock for weddings and honeymooners in 2009 causing resort closures all over. Be prepared for any unexplained natural or biomedical disaster and renovations that may leave you stranded. Destination weddings can truly be a breathtaking and magical experience for you and your guests when planned out.

Stay tuned for the BLUEman coming up on Monday at 3:33 p.m.

Also, don't forget to enter the Blissful Blueprint Contest. There is about 2 weeks left until we select 3 lucky brides!

Venue Me || Great Perks!

Finding the perfect venue really has its advantages. If you search for a venue site that really suits you, be sure to ask if they have amenities that will benefit you and your fiancé. The best way to really enjoy the week leading up to your wedding and on the wedding day is by soaking in the experience. This is the one time that your family will enjoy pampering and relaxing (with you). Check the venue website for special accommodations and the concierge for any services they recommend.


FREE Anyone?

All your wedding planning will eventually surmount to the one big day, and I give you permission to enjoy it. In many cases, the golf club you booked will also provide your fiancé and a small group of his friends a free round of golf (including the golf carts) on the wedding day. I’m really into relaxing so the spa area is where you would find me. Check out the spa area, pool, and massage services available at your venue. Booking your room and wedding day services also prompts them with special promotions for the bride and groom.

Take Me There

You may find it easy to wake up and walk outside your door to your own personal chauffeur service. Many hotels and venues also provide free shuttle service to and from your rehearsal dinner. In some cases, you may organize shuttle services for all your wedding guests from the hotel to the wedding site (if driving to two different locations). This saves your guests the hassle of finding parking and allows those who want to indulge in alcohol, a safe way home.

Just In Case!

During your travels (either by plane or across town), you may need to have your dress and your bridesmaid dresses steamed. The upright steamers are a hassle to carry with you so check on borrowing the venue’s site machine. Or, look for a dry cleaning service near your venue to take your dress for a quick fix. It’s best to hang your dress outside the bag to prevent deep wrinkles. Don’t forget to take your emergency wedding day kit with you because things do happen and you want to be prepared.

Prepped To Go || Financial Preparation

Poised at a pivotal time in the holiday season when our paychecks leave quicker than direct deposit and our days fade faster than a dimming light. With cash flying out of our pockets more than any other time of year, this brings particular concern over finances. Over spending may leave you staring at the dark hole burning through your pocket from the post-recession holiday. Many of us know that money doesn’t grow on trees, but we don’t know how to keep it from popping into the cashier’s hand.

The Storm

For those of you soon-to-be groom’s, thoughts are racing through your mind of when to pop the question. However, your other side of reasoning has you wondering how prepared you are for this love storm called a wedding. It’s can become a hail storm because of the responsibilities, money burning commitments and the flood of emotions that seem to reach everyone in the storm’s grasp. You too will find yourself in the midst of the storm. But, take a moment to breathe, and realize that this is exactly what you have been planning for the last few months, or years, since you laid eyes on your gorgeous beloved. Your wedding day will come in quickly and leave the same, but it’s up to you to make sound financial decisions.

Puzzle Pieces

Most people have come to terms that we are living in hard times – financially speaking. In fact, most brides are spending on average $22,000 for their wedding and reception. This is a considerable drop from previous budgets up nearly $28,000. For most guests, the thrill of the night exists over drinking and dancing the night away to great Bon Jovi and Cupid Shuffle dance moves. Work together with your wedding planner to detail your budget planning and seek guidance from a financial planner for more in-depth realizations. Weddings are one way to drive yourself into debt if you don’t think clearly. Your financial limitations are real but setup a plan one year before your wedding. This helps to ease any panic attacks on large purchases and reduce any buyer’s remorse (or missing something you truly wanted).

Pure Clarity

Being recently engaged or getting married soon should be the happiest time of your life. Consider all of your financial options, and not just those your fiancé (e)’s family support for this crunch. Credit cards are no longer the evil plastic floating in your wallet. Instead, use that special APR credit card offer that you likely received in the mail every week to pay for the deposit on the venue at the great golf club or vintage house you’ve been eyeing for weeks. Write out the list of expenses not only leading up to the wedding, but during and after your wedding. Don’t forget the thank you notes for all your gracious guests. Make a budget based on a percentage to apply to each category, for example: venue, food, and alcohol (50%), planner (8%), flowers and rental items (10%), stationary (1%), DJ (10%), cake (1%), photo and videographer (10%), attire (10%). The list can roll right off the page but use these tips to save your money tree.



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